Most people tend to avoid processing their grief For the same reason they good drinking their coffee black They know that it's bitter (Swoope) They dislike the bitterness And so in an attempt to distract themselves The load it up with all types of sugar and cream Even though they know 3 out of 4 of us are lactose intolerant What most of y'all don't know coffee's not a bean Coffee is a fruit, it's the pit of a cherry This fruit takes on the flavor of its soil The thing is though It only lets the people that lean into the bitterness enjoy the sweetness that's on the back end So if you lean in And drink what you'll find is there's subtle sweetnesses on the back end That are only reserved for people that lean in Grief is the same way So many of us are in distraction experience Where we're trying to distract our senses from the bitterness of grief With sex and accomplishments and compliments and all types of stuff In an attempt to mask the bitterness of grief the only thing that we do is disqualify ourselves from the prerequisite Leaning into it that unlocks the sweetnesses on the back end Coffee is bitter Grief is bitter But we don't have to stop there Both of those can be bittersweet